Before, we talked about motivating you to get closer to women and trusting you to ask for a date. But what if she says yes?You can spend a lot of time at this point, you are not ready for the same date. But do not worry, because organizing yourself before the first date is simple and simple when you know how. Let us examine everything.
How to Configure a Real Success for a First Date
1. Confidence Starts with Your Appearance
If she said yes to a date, then she obviously likes your look, so you don’t need to change it dramatically. She might like men with a slight beard, and could be disappointed if you’ve shaved it off to appear tidier!
If you feel more self-assured with a beard and longer hair, then don’t change a single thing.Self-assurance goes out the window when you start to change yourself based on what you think others will like.Similarly, what you wear will make a big impact on how you carry yourself through the date. If you’re the kind of person who feels more comfortable in black jeans, sneakers, and a plaid shirt, then that’s the best version of you. Many girls like that type of look on a man, so simply wear what makes you feel good.Dressing up does have its place, of course.A fine sports jacket like these examples is totally appropriate if you believe that’s the type of man she likes and you love wearing one. If you put on something that isn’t normally you, then it will come across on the date – she’ll be able to tell that you’re uncomfortable.If there’s anyone who can confirm that confidence in what you’re wearing is crucial, then it’s women themselves! Stacey Smith (menswear buyer from matchesfashion.com), Naomie Harris (actress) and many more women discussed what they believed made men eye-catching.
“IT’S ABOUT WEARING WHAT FEELS COMFORTABLE, AND HAVING CONFIDENCE IN HOW YOU DRESS – SOME OF THE BEST-DRESSED MEN IGNORE ‘THE RULES'” – STACEY SMITH“IT’S ALL ABOUT CONFIDENCE. BEING COMFORTABLE IN YOUR OWN SKIN, THERE IS SOMETHING SO ATTRACTIVE ABOUT THAT” – NAOMIE HARRIS
2. Suggest Options for the First Date
So, she wants to meet you soon – that’s the hard part done! Once you’ve worked out a time that suits both of your schedules, now you’ve got to pick a place to meet. What you end up doing can depend a lot on the time of day, for example, if you can only meet on Saturday afternoon, then suggesting a good coffee shop or park to meet up at are good ideas.Conversely, if Wednesday night is the only time she is free, then meeting at a bar or concert can be great first dates. Having a first date at the cinema is perhaps a bit old hat nowadays, but if you want to do something a bit more action-packed, then something like bowling or a casino can be a lot of fun.Not everyone likes the idea of eating in front of someone on the first date, so perhaps save the restaurant for a later date. Check for special events like art gallery openings or markets, as these can be great conversation starters.The main thing to remember with a first date is to suggest a few different options (but not too many!) and see what she prefers. Be open to her ideas as well, as she might know of a bar that she feels more comfortable in. Simply chat back and forth and come to an agreement on where to meet for the date.
3. Think of Topics to Discuss
While we’re not suggesting you need to bring a script of what to say, it is a good idea to have some topics in mind before the date. If you know she loves movies, then ask her what she’s seen lately and her thoughts on the films. Likewise, if you’re aware that she travels a lot, ask about her experiences and where she’s going next.
If you’ve been texting before the date, then you’ll probably have a rough idea of what she’s into and her personality, so have some topics in mind before the date, but also be spontaneous. No one wants to answer boring job interview questions like “Where do you see yourself in five years?” Try to have fun and ask interesting questions.
Oh, and don’t even think about pretending to like something just because she does, as you’re bound to get caught out eventually.
If you said you love The Beatles but can’t think of a single song when she asks your favorite… don’t expect the date to last long, let alone earn a second one. Either find common ground or perhaps discuss why you don’t like something she does, but never lie.
